Partner alignment and family adjustment
Helps you keep the family aligned and coping through the move.
Keep the couple and family aligned and coping through the move: deciding together, the trailing partner, money dynamics, children's emotional adjustment, teenagers, the first months and strain.
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- 9
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- 60
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- 7 hours
Begin with
Deciding the move together
You will know how to make the decision as a team, what to agree in writing before leaving, and how to cope if one partner has to go first.
How to decide together whether to move your family to Spain · When one of you wants Spain and the other does not · Weighing each family member's priorities for a move to Spain
More in partner alignment and family adjustment
8 more topics in this section, about 7 hours of reading in all.
The trailing partner and career
You will understand what the move does to the following partner's role, income, pension and independence, and what options exist.
When you followed your partner to Spain and lost your routine · Can your partner work in Spain? Planning for either answer · Living on a residence permit that depends on your partner
Household money and who does what
You will know how to keep money fair and visible between partners and how to rebalance daily work after the move.
The household earner shift and what to decide before you move · Keeping financial independence once you are settled in Spain · Choosing joint or separate money in Spain
Children's emotional adjustment
You will know what to expect from your children at each age and stage, what helps, and when to seek professional help.
How and when to tell your children you are moving to Spain · Preparing children before leaving with goodbyes and realistic expectations · What is normal at each age when a child moves to Spain
Moving with teenagers
You will understand a teenager's different experience of the move and how to protect the relationship and their wellbeing.
What really changes when you move to Spain with a teenager · Your teenager did not want to move and what happens next · What changes for a teenager's independence in Spain
Your family's first months
You will know what to expect, how to share the load and how to rebuild support in the first months.
Getting your family through the first weeks in Spain · Why each of you hits a low at a different time · Splitting the admin without losing family time
Relationship strain and counselling
You will be able to tell ordinary strain from real trouble, find help in your language and think through stay, go or separate decisions.
Is the strain in your relationship since moving normal? · Breaking the blame cycle when you moved for one partner · Keeping your relationship alive without family help nearby
Staying close to family back home
You will have realistic ways to stay close, host visitors lawfully and cope with family crises abroad.
Staying close to parents and relatives from Spain · Helping your children keep a bond with distant grandparents · Planning trips home without exhausting the family
Different family situations
You will see what is different for your household shape and where to start.
Moving to Spain as a single parent and what is different · Moving with a Spanish or Latin American partner and their family · Retired couples in Spain adjusting to each other full time
Other sections in Family, children, and education
School systems and enrollment
Helps you choose and enrol in the right school or study place.
Language and integration at school
Helps you help a child learn and settle in a new school language.
Childcare and family logistics
Helps you arrange reliable childcare while settling and working.
Special needs and support
Helps you get a child with additional needs evaluated and supported.
School costs, meals, transport and financial support
Helps you budget for and reduce the cost of schooling.
University and higher education
Helps you choose, get into and pay for university or other higher study in Spain.
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